How to Find the Perfect Plus Size Lingerie for Romantic Nights In
- S at Adore By S
- 2 days ago
- 5 min read
There’s something undeniably magical about slipping into lingerie. It’s not just fabric and lace, it’s an invitation to step into your power, to embrace your curves, and to indulge in the kind of self-love that radiates from the inside out. Whether you’re preparing for a romantic evening with a partner or simply setting the mood for yourself, the right plus size lingerie can transform an ordinary night at home into something unforgettable.
But here’s the truth... finding lingerie that fits, flatters, and makes you feel like the goddess you are isn’t always easy. For far too long, curvy and plus-size women have been left out of the lingerie conversation, expected to settle for pieces that are either too plain, too uncomfortable, or simply not designed with our bodies in mind. At Adore By S, we believe those days are over.
So let’s talk about how to find the perfect plus size lingerie for your next romantic night in, the kind of lingerie that doesn’t just fit your body, but celebrates it.
Step One: Start with How You Want to Feel
Before you even look at the tags or the styles, ask yourself... what’s the mood tonight?
Do you want to feel like a soft, romantic daydream in lace and blush tones? Or are you leaning toward sultry and powerful, with a bold bustier or strappy set that commands attention? Maybe you want something playful and cheeky, a garter belt paired with stockings that makes you feel both flirty and unstoppable.
Lingerie isn’t about fitting into someone else’s idea of sexy, it’s about leaning into your own. When you start with how you want to feel, the choices become less overwhelming. Romantic nights in don’t come with a rulebook. Sometimes sensual looks like delicate satin and candlelight. Other times, it looks like unapologetically bold mesh and a glass of red wine in hand. Both are perfect because both are you.
Step Two: Choose Fabrics That Adore Your Skin
The perfect lingerie isn’t just about how it looks in the mirror, it’s about how it feels against your skin. Plus size lingerie today is finally breaking free from stiff, uncomfortable fabrics and embracing luxurious textures that move with your body.
For a romantic night in, consider fabrics that not only look beautiful but feel divine to touch:
Lace that’s soft and stretchy, hugging your curves without digging in.
Satin and silk-like materials that glide over your skin, catching the light in the most flattering way.
Mesh and tulle that tease just enough, offering transparency with an edge of mystery.
The best lingerie whispers against your skin, reminding you with every touch that your body deserves pleasure, comfort, and beauty.
Step Three: Find the Silhouettes That Celebrate You
Lingerie for curvy and plus-size women should never be about hiding, it’s about celebrating. The right silhouette highlights your favourite features and lets you step into confidence.
Bustiers and corsets: Perfect for when you want a structured, sensual look that accentuates your waist and supports your bust. Pair with a thong or high-waist brief, and you’ve got a timeless, seductive set.
Garter belts and stockings: A playful addition that transforms any lingerie look into something irresistibly flirty.
Lingerie sets: Ideal for comfort and sensuality combined, especially if you want to keep things effortlessly romantic.
Bodysuits and teddies: These one-piece wonders flatter curves in all the right places and transition beautifully from lounging to seducing.
High-waisted styles: A favourite for mid-size and plus-size women who want both support and a vintage-inspired silhouette.
There is no “right” lingerie body. Your body is already right. Lingerie is simply the frame to highlight the masterpiece that is you.
Step Four: Prioritise Fit Over Size
One of the most empowering lingerie lessons you can learn? Size is just a number. Fit is what truly matters.
Plus size lingerie is about more than scaling up a smaller design. True inclusivity means pieces that are thoughtfully crafted with fuller busts, wider hips, and curvier proportions in mind. That means:
Wider straps that actually support without digging.
Underwire cups that lift without pinching.
Bands that stay in place instead of rolling down.
Stretchy fabrics that adapt to your curves rather than fight against them.
When lingerie fits well, you stop thinking about it and start feeling everything else.
Step Five: Make It a Ritual, Not Just a Moment
Here’s the secret no one talks about... lingerie isn’t just about the big reveal. It’s about the entire ritual of putting it on.
Imagine this... the soft music playing in the background, a favourite candle flickering, you taking your time slipping into something that feels luxurious and just for you. This is where confidence blooms, not because someone else is watching, but because you are.
Romantic nights in are as much about atmosphere as they are about appearance. The perfect lingerie becomes part of that atmosphere, a symbol of self-love and intimacy. Pair it with a silk robe while you pour a glass of wine. Add heels if you want the click of confidence against the floor. Or stay barefoot, grounded in your own sensuality.
Lingerie is not the destination. It’s part of the journey toward feeling empowered, playful, and deeply connected to yourself.
Step Six: Choose Lingerie That Matches Your Love Language
Romance isn’t one-size-fits-all, and neither is lingerie. Think of your lingerie as an extension of your love language.
If your love language is touch, choose fabrics that beg to be caressed, like velvet or satin.
If it’s words of affirmation, find lingerie that makes you want to say, “I look incredible.”
If it’s acts of service, let lingerie be a gift you give yourself, a gesture of care and indulgence.
If it’s quality time, pick something you can lounge in for hours, blending intimacy and comfort.
And if it’s gifts, well, what better gift than lingerie designed to adore your curves?
When lingerie feels aligned with your personal desires and needs, it becomes more than clothing, it becomes an experience.
Finding the perfect plus size lingerie for romantic nights in isn’t about rules or perfection, it’s about celebration. It’s about letting go of what the industry once told us we couldn’t wear and embracing the beauty that’s always been ours.
Whether you choose something bold and commanding or soft and delicate, remember lingerie doesn’t create your confidence. It amplifies the confidence that’s already there.
So light the candles, slip into something that makes you feel divine, and let your curves tell their own love story.
